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Polywise: a deeper dive into navigating open relationships

Polywise: a deeper dive into navigating open relationships by Amazonundefined

Price last update: 09/03/2024

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As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual non-monogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom, and support.
While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed. Beyond the initial transition to non-monogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting, and persistent jealousy.
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that non-monogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy.
Recenzja
In her latest book, Jessica Fern has crafted the map to guide readers and lovers venturing into the uncharted. With great care and necessary nuance,
Polywise
is a must-read for anyone navigating open relationships.
-- Esther Perel
I often say theres being polyamorous and then theres being polyamorous well. I believe
Polywise
can equip you to do just that.
-- Evita Sawyers, author of
A Polyamory Devotional
Most of us are content to make polyamory work and keep ourselves and our partners reasonably happy. Jessica Fern is taking us far beyond that to a much deeper level of understanding of our psyches and the underpinnings of our relationship dynamics. She and her co-conspirator David Cooley have bared their souls about the evolution of their own poly lives and relationships, as well as sharing countless illuminating stories about their clients struggles Required reading and a must-have for your poly bookshelf!
-- Kathy Labriola, author of
The Polyamory Breakup Book
An exceptional achievement that will be required reading for anyone practicing consensual non-monogamy, from seasoned veteran to timid newbie alike.
-- Emily Sotelo Matlack, co-host of the Multiamory podcast and co-author of
Multiamory: essential tools for modern relationships
If you are ready to think more deeply about communication, codependency, conflict, and repair in your most important relationships,
Polywise
is required reading.
-- Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, author of
Love Every Day
and host of
Reimagining Love
In
Polywise
, Jessica Fern and David Cooley help readers understand the often unseen root causes of symptoms and give them the strategies they need so their relationships can actually thrive.
-- JoEllen Notte, author of
The Monster Under the Bed: sex, depression, and the conversations we arent having
and
In It Together: navigating depression with partners, friends, and family
Praise for
Polysecure
:
A deeply compassionate book,
Polysecure
is a great read for both therapists who serve people in consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships and laypeople who are interested in what makes for secure attachments in such relationships. It offers an excellent summary of conventional attachment theory, critiques and re-interprets attachment theory for CNM relationships, and provides a roadmap for people in CNM relationships who want to establish emotionally intimate and securely attached relationships with multiple partners. One of the most important insights from Ferns delightful book is that secure attachment is a product of relationship experiences rather than relationship.
-- Dr Elisabeth Sheff, author of
The Polyamorists Next Door
,
Stories from the Polycule
,
When Someone You Love is Polyamorous
, and
Children in Polyamorous Families
Praise for
Polysecure
:
Polysecure
is likely to become for people interested in polyamory, what Love Languages is for understanding romance. It gives people a way to understand how they may be recreating those old patterns by bringing their own childhood attachment styles into their adult relationships. And even more importantly, it offers concrete skills for how to use this knowledge to create healthier, more satisfying, and secure relationship dynamics.
-- Max Rivers, intimacy coach and author of
Loving Conflict: how conflict is really your relationship trying to go deeper
Praise for
Polysecure
:
An extremely helpful addition to the literature on consensual non-monogamy, and the first self-help book to focus on applying attachment theory to non-monogamous relationships. Taking the reader by the hand, Jessica Fern explains how perfectly secure attachment styles are rare, and how all of us can usefully work with our attachment issues, whatever our way of doing relationships. Weaving together research findings with therapeutic literature and personal experience, Fern does an excellent job of challenging the popular view that non-monogamous people are more likely than anyone else to struggle with attachment. She presents an extremely helpful model locating our relationship patterns within our wider culture and community as well as within our family background and relationship experiences. The notion of openly discussing whether we want an attachment-based partnership or not is worth the price of the book all by itself, as is the chapter on developing a secure attachment with yourself. This is gold!
-- Dr Meg-John Barker, author of
Rewriting the Rules: an anti self-help guide to love, sex and relationships
O autorze
Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.